XtoysLoving Joy 9 Inch Realistic Silicone Dildo Review
Editor's opinion
This is a full-size, realistically sculpted silicone dildo with a suction base that also fits most harnesses. It suits those already comfortable with a fuller girth who want one versatile toy for solo and partnered play, but at roughly 5.2 cm across it is not a sensible first purchase.
The Loving Joy 9 Inch Realistic Silicone Dildo sets out to be a do-everything piece: a lifelike shape in body-safe silicone, a suction base for hands-free play, and a base that drops into a strap-on harness. That combination is what most people are really paying for here, so the question is how well the size and material serve those uses.
The headline number to weigh is not the length but the girth. At 18.5 cm insertable and 5.2 cm in diameter, this is a substantial toy, and the way you should read it depends entirely on what you are used to. The rest is straightforward, well-considered spec.
The good and the bad
What works
- Body-safe silicone, so it is non-porous and easy to keep clean
- Genuinely versatile: hands-free on a smooth surface or worn in a harness
- No batteries or charging to think about
- Slight give in the firm shaft makes the girth more manageable
What to be aware of
- A 5.2 cm diameter is a lot for anyone still working up in size
- Silicone rules out silicone-based lubricant, which narrows your options
- At around 320g it needs a genuinely clean, flat surface for the suction to hold
- Realistic vein texture is not to everyone's taste
Buy it if
People who already enjoy a fuller girth and want a single, adaptable toy that covers solo hands-free play and use in a harness with a partner.
Skip it if
Newcomers to full-size toys, who would do better starting with something slimmer around 3 to 4 cm in diameter and working up gradually.
Design and materials
The body is liquid silicone, which is the material most worth having in this category. It is non-porous, so it does not harbour bacteria the way jelly or PVC can, and it warms to skin temperature rather than staying cold. The sculpted head and raised veins give it a lifelike look, and while silicone holds a firm shape it keeps a slight give, which matters more the larger a toy is.
That realistic detailing is a matter of taste. Some buyers want exactly this; others find the veins add texture they would rather do without. It is worth knowing the shaft is textured before you buy, not a smooth column.
Suction base and harness use
The flared suction base is the feature that earns this toy its keep. Pressed against a clean, smooth surface such as tile, it anchors for hands-free use at whatever angle you set it. Do note that suction is only as good as the surface: a textured wall, a grouted seam or any dust will break the seal, and at roughly 320g there is real weight pulling against it.
The same base is designed to fit most strap-on harnesses, which is genuinely useful. One toy that covers both solo and partnered play is better value than buying two, provided the girth suits the person receiving.
Size, and reading it honestly
The 23 cm total length looks dramatic, but the numbers that decide comfort are the 18.5 cm insertable and, above all, the 5.2 cm diameter and 15 cm circumference. That is a substantial girth. For someone accustomed to it, this is a satisfying full-size toy; for someone not, it will simply be too much.
If you are stepping up in size, plenty of water-based lubricant and an unhurried approach make a real difference, but be honest with yourself about your starting point rather than the aspiration.
Care and cleaning
Silicone is easy to look after: warm water with a suitable toy cleaner or mild soap before and after use, then dry it fully before storing. The one firm rule is lubricant. Use water-based only, because silicone lubricant can gradually degrade a silicone surface, and that is not worth risking.
Store it somewhere clean and dry and ideally not touching other silicone toys, which can react against each other over time and mar the surface.
The bottom line
For the right buyer this is a well-specified, body-safe toy that does two jobs well, hands-free and in a harness, without batteries to manage. Just take the girth seriously: if 5.2 cm across is comfortable territory, this is an easy recommendation, and if it is not, choose something slimmer first.
Frequently asked questions
Is this a good choice for a beginner?
Not really. At 5.2 cm in diameter it sits in the substantial range, which makes it better suited to those already comfortable with a fuller girth. A newcomer would be more comfortable starting slimmer and working up.
What lubricant should I use with it?
A water-based lubricant only. Silicone-based lubricants can degrade a silicone surface over time, so they are best avoided with this toy. Given the girth, using plenty of it is sensible.
Will the suction base hold on any surface?
It needs a smooth, clean, flat surface such as tile to grip properly. Textured walls, grouted seams or dust will break the seal, and the toy's weight of around 320g works against the suction, so a solid clean surface matters.
Can I use it in a strap-on harness?
Yes. The base is designed to fit most standard harnesses, which is part of what makes this toy versatile for partnered play as well as solo hands-free use.
How do I clean and store it?
Wash with warm water and a suitable toy cleaner or mild soap before and after use, dry it fully, and store it somewhere clean and dry, ideally not touching other silicone toys.