XtoysLoving Joy Beginners Pegging Strap On Kit Review
Editor's opinion
This is a genuine everything-in-one-box starter set: a manageable 4.5 inch silicone dildo paired with an adjustable universal harness. It suits couples trying strap-on or pegging play for the first time who want one considered purchase rather than several separate decisions. The main caveat is that both the size and the PVC-and-nylon harness are pitched squarely at beginners, so anyone who progresses will likely want to upgrade.
Buying your first strap-on can feel like assembling a jigsaw with missing pieces: a harness here, a dildo there, checking O ring diameters and guessing at sizing. A complete kit like this one is designed to sidestep all of that by pairing a compatible harness and dildo in a single package, so the two parts are guaranteed to work together from the outset.
The question for a buyer is whether a kit built explicitly for beginners is the right entry point, or whether it is worth starting with individual components you can keep. Here the deciding factors are the deliberately modest 4.5 inch size, the universal harness with its bullet pocket, and the choice of silicone for the dildo but PVC and nylon for the harness itself.
The good and the bad
What works
- Everything needed in one box, with a harness and dildo already compatible
- 4.5 inch size is genuinely beginner-appropriate, not overreaching
- Silicone dildo is body-safe and easy to keep clean
- Universal harness adjusts to waists up to 150cm, covering most body shapes
- Bullet pocket allows added stimulation for the wearer
What to be aware of
- PVC-and-nylon harness is functional rather than premium or long-lasting
- No vibrating bullet is included despite the pocket
- Two O rings limit you to similarly based dildos if you upgrade later
- 4.5 inches will feel limiting once confidence grows
Buy it if
Couples completely new to strap-on or pegging play who want a single, sensibly sized purchase that works straight out of the box without matching parts themselves.
Skip it if
Anyone already experienced who wants more length or girth, or a buyer after a durable leather or premium harness. They should look at a heavier-duty harness bought alongside a dildo of their preferred size.
What you get and how it fits together
The kit contains the Loving Joy Universal Harness fitted with two O rings and a 4.5 inch realistic silicone dildo. Because the harness and dildo are sold as a set, the O ring is already matched to the dildo's base, which removes the single most common first-time frustration of buying a dildo that will not sit in the ring.
The harness is fully adjustable and rated to fit waists up to 150cm, or roughly 59 inches, so it accommodates a broad range of body shapes. There is also a pocket for a vibrating bullet, which lets the wearer add sensation for themselves. Worth noting: the bullet itself is not part of the kit, so if that feature appeals you will need to buy one separately.
Materials and what they mean in use
The dildo is silicone, which is the reassuring choice here. It is non-porous, body-safe and easy to clean, and the 4.5 inch length keeps first-time play comfortable and manageable rather than daunting. Because it is silicone, pair it with a water-based lubricant only; silicone lubricant can degrade a silicone surface over time.
The harness is a different story, made from PVC with nylon. That keeps it affordable and machine washable, but it is a practical, entry-level construction rather than the supple leather or robust fabric you would find on a harness designed to last for years. For learning the ropes it does the job; heavy, frequent use may eventually show its limits.
Cleaning and care
The harness being machine washable is a real convenience and one of the kit's better practical points, as fabric harnesses can otherwise be fiddly to freshen up. Follow the care guidance and let it dry fully before storing.
The silicone dildo should be washed with warm water and a suitable toy cleaner before and after use. Store it away from other silicone items where possible, as silicone can react against silicone in prolonged contact.
How it compares with the alternatives
The obvious alternative is buying a harness and dildo separately, which gives you more control over size, material and O ring compatibility but asks you to get all of that right yourself. This kit trades that flexibility for certainty, which is exactly what many first-timers want.
Against other beginner sets, the presence of a bullet pocket and a genuinely universal harness are points in its favour. The trade-off is the PVC harness and the fixed, modest dildo size. If you already suspect you will want more length or a sturdier harness, spending on individual components you can keep may serve you better in the long run.
The bottom line
As a first strap-on, this kit does the most important job well: it takes the uncertainty out of getting started, with a body-safe silicone dildo at a sensible size and a harness that fits most people. Just go in clear-eyed that it is a beginner's tool, so if you take to strap-on play you should expect to upgrade the harness and reach for something larger before long. For dipping a toe in, it is a sound, honest starting point.
Frequently asked questions
Is a vibrating bullet included in the kit?
No. The harness has a pocket designed to hold a vibrating bullet, but the bullet itself is not part of the kit. You would need to buy one separately if you want that added stimulation for the wearer.
What lubricant should I use with the silicone dildo?
Use a water-based lubricant. The dildo is silicone, and silicone-based lubricants can degrade a silicone surface over time. Water-based lube is the safe, compatible choice.
Will the harness fit most body shapes?
It is a fully adjustable universal harness rated to fit waists up to 150cm, around 59 inches, so it accommodates a wide range of shapes. Check your measurement against that figure before buying.
Can I swap the dildo for a bigger one later?
The harness uses O rings, so you can change the dildo, but it comes with two specific O rings matched to the included dildo's base. A much larger or differently based dildo may need a different O ring size, so check compatibility before upgrading.
Is 4.5 inches a good size to start with?
For first-time strap-on or pegging play, yes. A shorter, manageable length is generally more comfortable and less intimidating while you find your rhythm. Many people move up in size once they feel confident.